Live like a relay

A mental hack to ensure that I dodge the regret reminder conveyor belt is to think of my life like a relay race. In a relay everyone does there part for their given distance. You’re not responsible for what happens before you recieve the Baton and you’re not responsible for what happens after. Your only mission is to run your distance as effeciently as possible, setting up the next guy as well as you can.

Regrets, we all have them. If your totally honest how often does a past mistake pop in to your mind and send you shivering with embarasment?

These regrets are often from years ago, even childhood and are usually mistakes you would never be unwise enough to repeat, yet for some reason they still appear in our consciousness.

Why do we spend so much time on regret?

We can spend excessive time dwelling on these regrets, letting them knock our confidence and blowing way out of proportion when compared to all the times you didn’t mess up the same thing. We are programmed to remember regrets much more vividly as a survival mechanism, its important not to step on snakes, but like so many instincts that saved the human race for thousands of years they no longer serve us in todays environment.

If we can detach ourselves from the ongoing “you” narrative these regrets become much easier to deal with. If you wake up every day thinking about the mistake “you” made when you were 8 years old your going to waste your time right now. If we can realise your 8 year old self is not really “you” at all. There is the old addage that all the cells in your body replace themselves every 7 years, this means in the most literal sense you can’t possibly be that same person as all those years ago.

Living life like a Relay

A mental hack to ensure that I dodge the regret reminder conveyor belt is to think of my life like a relay race. In a relay everyone does there part for their given distance. You’re not responsible for what happens before you recieve the Baton and you’re not responsible for what happens after. Your only mission is to run your distance as effeciently as possible, setting up the next guy as well as you can.

If we can wake up and realise “you” are not the same guy as 8 years ago, 8 months ago, 8 days ago or even yesterday it absolves you from the responsbility to relive those regrets. You don’t need feel the need to loop anyone elses regrets over in your head. This leaves you free to concentrate on running your distance (today) and setting up future you in the best possible position.

If you can play this trick on yourself everyday it allows you to be productive right now. In the War of Art by Steven Pressfield he drives home the point that just showing up gets you a huge percentage of the way there in the long run. By concentrating purely on today we can show up for the things we need to do without being hamstrung by guilt about the past.

Future “you” will be proud

Once you are seperated from the need to question and doubt yourself you are free to that work you know you need to do. If you show up and do that work your future self will have less regret, its a self reinforcing cycle!

Whilst we can never totally purge ourselves of past regrets we can find ways to put them in context and ensure that these survival mechanisms don’t hamper our ability to thrive in the present.

Live life like a relay, pass on todays productivity to your future self.

Improving is a Moral Duty

J: Following on from the chat on Saturday night and the reading recommendations, this is an interesting read.

https://newint.org/features/2019/07/01/long-read-progress-and-its-discontents

Max: Hmm interesting
Max: You read things with a very different slant to me J
Max: My main issue with thise kind of articles is thst even if hes 100% right about everything
Max: Basically all positive change comes from optimistic people
Max: So reading and believing it basically rules you out of doing anything about it

Hi Improvrs,

Today I want to share what turned into an interesting little debate between myself and some friends earlier this week.

Is it your moral duty to improve and win?

 

J: Following on from the chat on Saturday night and the reading recommendations, this is an interesting read.

https://newint.org/features/2019/07/01/long-read-progress-and-its-discontents

Max: Hmm interesting
Max: You read things with a very different slant to me J
Max: My main issue with thise kind of articles is thst even if hes 100% right about everything
Max: Basically all positive change comes from optimistic people
Max: So reading and believing it basically rules you out of doing anything about it

J: You’ve summed up why my lack of optimism trips me up from making positive changes to my life.. (JK)

O: I disagree with a lot of what Pinker says. He often seems to think that the fact we are not in mortal danger of being massacred by a rival tribe then that is a good state.
O: Captilism did not drag everyone out of poverty in the 20th century.
O: I would recommend Robert Tressel’s ‘The Ragged Trousered Philanthropist’ as a novel which describes the perpetuation of the current system by the people who it keeps in relative poverty.

Max: Interesting question for you all then: assuming the above article is right what should we be doing about it?
Max: If it takes the collusion of the relatively impoverished to maintain the system is it our moral duty to improve our own situation out of that?

J: Voting Corbyn! Haha.
I don’t know Max. One feels helpless as on an individual level, there’s not much one can do to help course correct or overturn a vastly unjust system.
We can protest, write letters, campaign on an issue.
But we’re ants under the billionaires shoes and the system they’ve created.

D: We can vote sane billionaires in
D: Or become billionaires and then run for priminister
D: You seen that Andrew Yang guy who’s running for president?
D: He basically wants to do everything that would lead us to a post capitalist society and he’s literally running for president right now
D: So things are already looking up
D: Obviously that’s America but it needs to happen there first really

Max: My thoughts exactly D, you gain power to change the game once your winning
Max: Nobody listens to the guy who wants to stop playing monopoly because hes losing
Max: Youve got to be in the lead to suggest chess

D: That’s the case now, but I think we’d all be agreed that winning at a game called capitalism is a prerequisite for enacting change
D: Feels a bit arbitrary
D: But it’s the best we’ve got now and you can still become a billionaire from nothing so it’s not _too_ far off the ideal
D: Shouldn’t be the prerequisite I mean*

Max: Even if post capitalism (whatever that actually involves) is enacted it will still be a game and you will still have to prove yourself in some manner before getting any real power

D: Yeah defo
D: But the game should be who’s the best person not who acquired the most money
D: We need a throwback to ancient Roman culture that was heavy on the virtue

O: *whose parents have acquired the most money

D: But less conquering and barbaric
D: True, inheritance tax is pretty brutal though
D: But I guess tax avoidance is the biggest piss take there

Max: Well i posit that there has never been a system enacted on a large scale that offers more social mobility and gives ‘normal’ individuals a higher possibility to make change
Max: Definitely including ancient rome
Max: So theres that

D: Yeah, just expect that we are the best we’ve ever been though, anything else would be a failure
D: We’re just saying it can be even better right?

O: I agree. But there is the argument that the people who decide how th system works benefit the most from capitalism.
O: So there is no will whatsoever to change it. Even if there are alternatives.
O: Eton, Trump, journalists etc.

D: 🙂 -> 😁 -> 😂 -> 🤣
D: That’s what we’re aiming for guys ☝️

Max: But again thats the case with any system? The people at the top always set the rules

D: There must be will to change it otherwise Yang, Sanders, Corbyn, and many others wouldn’t be anywhere near power

Max: Aye
Max: Its a slippery one for sure

D:Image result for slip and slide fat man gif

Max: Always leads me back to the same thing though – concentrating on improving and expanding your own circle of influence is best for you as an individual and provides the most opportubity for you to contribute to society at large
Max: 😂 D

How to Retire in Your 30s

A video based on my mission to retire in my 30s, how I intend to do it and how I will share my story going forward

To start with this video was insipired by the Guardian article “Can anyone retire in their 30s? Meet the people who say yes” by Stephen Moss.

Stephen interviews several of the better known FIRE (financial independence retire early) advocates including some the US based Mr Money Mustache and the UK based Barney Whiter of The Escape Artist.

Get Better with a Mission Statement

Knowing your purpose is paramount for habit building and determining the direction you should be working. Without it its so easy to build towards something that does not align with the outcome you actually want. All of us have achieved something and realized later that it pushed us further from our deep goals. A promotion that means longer hours or a degree in a field that you don’t want to work in.
This is why we all need a clear Mission Statement, both personally and for our work. […]

Clarity of Direction

Knowing your purpose is paramount for habit building and determining the direction you should be working. Without it its so easy to build towards something that does not align with the outcome you actually want. All of us have achieved something and realized later that it pushed us further from our deep goals. A promotion that means longer hours or a degree in a field that you don’t want to work in.

This is why we all need a clear Mission Statement, both personally and for our work.

Here at Improvr towers we have been keenly reading Russel Brunson’s Expert Secrets and although we are only part way through it is already providing massive value. Brunson dedicates a whole section to effective mission statements and as inspiration I want to share ours:

Improvr: Mission Statement

We follow our dreams. We aim to have it all. We believe we can be in the top 5% of all major areas of life, whilst being in the top 1% in our area of focus.

We reject normal. We reject excuses. We rejected neglecting one area of life to whilst we work on others.

This community is here for those that are still hustling, still grinding and still battling through. We are optimisers, we seek efficiency, we seek 90% of the gains with 20% of the time commitment.

We are the Improvrs.

Get Better.. Get Paid

You know that thing you really love? That thing you do whenever you have the time? That thing you secretly wish you’d managed to become a pro at?
What if you still can?

Right now you do something for enjoyment and you do it better than you think. You are an expert, maybe not an outright expert in the field but compared to someone who has just started you have a huge amount of knowledge. If whatever is springing to mind for you is an activity you only began recently, even better. Documenting your mistakes as they happen can be even more useful than discussing them after the fact.

Remember how long it took to get to the level of skill your currently at? Remember all the time you wasted doing something wrong? You can cut someone else’s learning curve in half. You can cut 1000 peoples’ learning curve in half if you just write down what you now know.

And here’s a secret… you can get paid for it.

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Nearly everyone hates to sell, for most people it feels seedy and disingenuous but here’s the rub: how far would you have got without anyone else’s advice?

There is someone, online or in person, to whom you owe a lot for their advice in getting you a good proportion of where you are today. You have since taken that advice, added your own discoveries to it, removed some steps that you don’t think are necessary. This has given you a unique angle.
Whoever you got this advice from wrote or spoke in such a way that appealed to you at the time but they won’t appeal to everyone. There are people out there who would find you a more compelling person to learn from than your mentor.

You have the power to positively influence other people’s lives in a way that other people cannot.

Maybe your unique angle is that you started from a different position in life, a different geography, you took a different approach. Maybe you found a quicker way or just a more entertaining way to explain the method.
Your knowledge potentially has incredible value to others. Sharing that knowledge is a great way to improve your own understanding, get paid for what you love and help others at the same time.

Whatever your thing is find a way to coach others, write a blog, film a youtube video. In the War of Art Steven Pressfield explains that the professional just turns up. The professional does the work everyday and doesn’t worry about perfection. Become professional.

Get started. It will open doors down the road and give you the opportunity to maintain fair exchange by charging for your time and expertise either directly in person or just through ad revenue on your site.